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What exactly  is Profundity –

noun: profundity
deep insight; great depth of knowledge or thought.
“the simplicity and profundity of the message”

great depth or intensity of a state, quality, or emotion.
“the profundity of her misery”

a statement or idea that shows great knowledge or insight.
plural noun: profundities

Some of my Counseling with cliffs favorite Profundities are below

“Do one thing everyday that scares you”  Eleanor Roosevelt

“the curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change” Carl Rogers

“We prefer the security of known misery to the insecurity of unknown happiness”

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making plans” John Lennon

Carl Jung’s 5 necessities for Happiness:
1. Good physical and mental health.
2. Good personal and intimate relationships, such as those of marriage, the family and friendships.
3. The faculty for perceiving beauty in art and nature.
4. Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.
5. A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping successfully with the vicissitudes of live.

 “The brain’s primary purpose is deception and the primary person to be deceived is the owner.”  Larry Ellison

“To draw an analogy: a man’s suffering is similar to the behavior of a gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little. Therefore the “size” of human suffering is absolutely relative. Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”  Victor E. Frankl

S.A.F.E. – A Self-Compassion Practice.

Elisha Goldstein

SAFE is a simple acronym from Uncovering Happiness that just happens to be fitting to what we all ultimately need to feel happy. When we don’t feel safe, our brains fall into a fear mindset and don’t allow for our natural states of joy, calm and happiness to arise.

I’ll often have people just play with this in any moment to see what they notice. Or I’ll have them visualize a recent or upcoming difficult moment to get in touch with more uncomfortable feelings of shame, fear, guilt, sadness or anger to bring alive the natural anti-depressant effects of the SAFE practice.

S – Soften into the feeling. This implies a type of gentle recognition of the feeling, maybe even naming it. “Breathing in, opening to the vulnerability that is there, breathing out, softening into it.”

A – Allow it to be as it is, without resisting or clinging to it.

F – Feel into the emotion that is there with a kind attention. In doing this we can still drop in the questions, “What does this feeling believe” and “What do I need right now?” When we discover this we might send that internally. For example, if we sense that we need to feel loved and to feel safe, we might say, “May I feel loved, May I feel safe, etc…”

E – Expand awareness of all people who also experience this vulnerability. The fact is this vulnerability of resistance, depression or any difficult experience is also a human experience. This is a core component of self-compassion. Here is where we understand that we are not alone and that in this very moment there are thousands if not millions of people who are experiencing this very same feeling. The “E” of SAFE is where we inspire connection with the rest of humanity. In this practice we can also take what we learned from the “F” of SAFE and send it outward saying, “May we all feel loved, May we all feel safe, etc…
Elisha Goldstein

Some thoughts from Buddhist Practice

The three marks of existence

1. Everything is temporary; experiences are continually changing. This insight makes difficult situations less painful and frightening because they can be thought of in the context of “This, too, will pass.”

2. Every experience has the potential for startling the mind into confused resistance, which manifests as tension, or mental suffering. The mind thinks, I need more of this right now,” or “I need less of this right now, “rather than, “This is what is happening now. Let’s see what happens next,” which re-balances the mind from its brief suffering state into equanimity.

3. Everything is contingent. External events or internal experiences like moods or thoughts arise for reasons. Nothing happens without having been caused by something and without impacting future events.

The four noble truths

1. Life is continually challenging because circumstances keep changing.

2. Suffering is the inability of the mind to accommodate these changing circumstances.

3. Peace is possible.

4. It is possible to systematically cultivate, through lifestyle practices and mental training exercises, a mind that accommodates changing circumstances wisely, avoids confusion, and does not suffer.

 “A life lived passionately is like a fire.  Sometimes it burns brightly leaping from the embers with red-hot intensity and at others it smolders quietly beneath the ashes. Whatever its rhythm, life is dynamic. It waxes, wanes, bends, turns and twists.”  Janice Keegan

“The truth about healing is that you don’t need to heal to be whole. By whole, I mean damaged, missing pieces of who you were, your heart—missing what feels like some of your most important parts. Yet, not missing any part of you at all. Being, in truth, larger than you were before.  Because all of us are made not only of what we have but of what we lost.  And loss is not a subtraction.  As an experience, it is an addition. Even when we lose a leg or an arm, there’s not less of us but more.  Human experience weighs more than human tissue.“

Augusten Burroughs