My approach to counseling in general:
Many of us grow up thinking that we are not good enough in some way, that we are fundamentally flawed, that there is something wrong with us. My intention will be to create an atmosphere in which you can be completely authentic and learn that you are perfect just the way you are. I will do that by being authentic with you and be totally present and engaged with you in our sessions.
I believe that anxiety can be linked back to feelings of unworthiness and the fear that we will not be able to deal appropriately with situations that we encounter in our lives.
My Approach To Anxiety –
We will deal first off and continually with whatever anxiety you are feeling in our sessions. Learning that being anxious and worrying are normal feelings in life and learning to deal with them in our sessions will lead to learning to deal with them in other parts of your life.
I think depression comes from being sad and then letting our thinking turn into ruminating about things that are wrong with us and wrong with our lives. We tend to feel that things will never get better. In reality, no feeling lasts forever.
It is the fear that things will never get better that plunges us into despair. Then we often start beating ourselves up about the bad choices we have made in the past and all of our deficiencies. Sadness is a natural part of being alive.
In some ways it is a signal from our bodies that we need to nurture ourselves in some way. There have been times for me when my mind was telling me that I was depressed and that I got myself a meal or read a good book and then felt better. In the process I nurtured myself.
My Approach To Depression –
We will look at how your mind gets triggered by disappointment into thinking that there is something wrong with you and help you learn to accept that sadness is a natural part of life that does not have to lead to ruminating about things that you have been taught are bad about yourself. We will work at looking at changing the things about yourself that you can change and accepting those that you do not have control over.
Self- Esteem Issues-
Low self-esteem is directly related to feeling that we are in some way inadequate. When we approach life circumstances from a place of low self-esteem we tend to under perform thus reinforcing the idea that we are flawed in some way. It is kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy. “See, I knew I was a failure”. On the other hand if we approach situations with confidence and believing in our own abilities we are more successful.
My Approach To Self-Esteem Issues –
We will work at accepting yourself as you are and developing a vision of being successful in your life.
I am comfortable and confident in working with clients who have issues with sex, sexual preference, gender identification, addictions of all kinds
I believe addiction has to do with looking for something (medicators) to distract us from feelings that we don’t want to feel.
My Approach To Addiction –
We will try to look for those feelings that you are afraid to feel and to look for past traumas that may have been painful for you.
Sleep or Insomnia
Video Game Addiction